I think this is the most relatable story I've read yet on Medium re: neurodivergence. Thank you for sharing it! I recognized myself in every milestone. I'm 58 and got ADHD and autistic dx last year (at great expense). I tested well (high so-called IQ) and did menial jobs (at least 85 of them) my whole life. I struggled to conquer teaching high school, being an academic researcher, and whenever I tried to be a "professional." I just didn't fit in, and knowing I'm ADHD has made such a difference. I also struggled with money management, anxiety/depression, and gender conformity. I have eating issues, additionally, and a lot of self-esteem issues. This AuDHD label is the first time in my entire life I've felt something is accurate! What a game-changer...even with the grief that goes along with it.