I'm not sure this is the whole story. I don't put such men on a pedestal, but at the same time when I try to play their game, with their rules, I lose. So I opt out. I no longer play sports like softball or basketball or dodgeball with men. It's a pain in the neck to deal with the invariable toxic male, the condescension, and being told what to do when I already know what to do. I tolerate male leadership and look for places where there is more female leadership.