Yep. Now that I know I’m AuDHD I see my past friendships quite differently. I’ve never really trusted other women & now I know why. I’m grateful my husband genuinely likes me, doesn’t see my as a charity case, and is willing to talk everything through without instantly blaming or criticizing. He’s the only friend I’ve ever had who does this & it helped me realize this is normal and healthy and what it feels like to be valued, not used. I too am that “masculine” friend. Safe, until I try to be a fully adult female.